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Petikan dari buku Finding Your Strength in Life kepunyaan aku. Oleh Dr David Viscott

DONT WAIT FOR LOVE - Page 24

If another person is going to love you, that person already love you and there is nothing you need to do to win that love.

If people tell you that the reason that they don't love you is because you don't do something for them, such as obey them or meet their expectations, the sad truth is that they will not love you when you follow their commands or meet those expectations.

Such love is conditional.

People who offer conditional love want to control you. The moment that they give their love without condition is the moment you are free.

This not what they want

So when you please someone in order to get his or her love, you will soon discover that love is not worth having, or that new conditions have been added for you to meet before you are loved.

When you want to be love, you neglect to acknowledge the love that already exists.

--- I give love freely and expect nothing in return ---

RECOGNIZE WHEN YOU ARE LOVED - Page 26

The person who love you loves you because he or she loves you.

That's it. No further explanations are needed.

No explanations make sense of love anyway.

When there is a powerful reason, a burning need for someone to love you, then the love that results is precarious and can suddenly disappear.

The people who cling to you may make you feel secure, even powerfull at first, but in time their love will smother you and you'll reject them

The people who rescue you will end up controlling you, and you'll come to hate yourself for being weak and susceptible to being bought off so cheaply.

The people who flatter you act on the belief that you cannot tell the difference between real love and fawning. They insult you intelligence, and you only believe them when you are desperately insecure.

The love that is most powerful exists for itself, without reasons, conditions or excuses.

When you find someone who loves you because of the person you are, the way you do things, your humor, your personality, or because this person like the way he or she feels about himself or herself in your presence, be true to this person,

This person mirrors your best,

--- I do not try to be accepted. I do not search for love. I want only to be me and am grateful for the gift of myself ---